I don’t think there’s any other way to but having difficult conversations. My husband and I have a complicated relationship cause we are both angry at each other for things we’ve done to each other but at the end of the day he’s the only person in my entire life that’s always been there for me. He knows exactly who I am, he knows how intense I am and he’s not scared of it he likes it and that’s why he married me. But there’s not a single relationship that’s perfect sadly. I just look at my life and analyze every relationship I’ve ever had and like he’s the only one that’s always been there, no matter how angry he gets with me he’s always there. So my way of setting boundaries is just saying what’s bothering you and cut to the chase. I don’t really understand games or have any intention to play them. Specially with people I love. There’s many things that upset me in my relationship and I just set boundaries saying that to him. And he does the same thing to me. Don’t ignore the elephant in the room just address it. And that’s gonna solve a lot of your problems.